We all know that money can't buy happiness - but many times we act as if we'd be happier with a bit more money. We are conditioned to want to be rich (when we know the rich aren't happy either); we are trained to want the latest gadget or style that television tells us to want; we want to earn more money because then we'll have the good life.

　　我們都知道金錢買不來幸福 - 但很多時候，錢多一點，我們也會顯得更高興。我們總想有錢(盡管我們知道富人也并非總是幸福);我們總要得到電視介紹給我們的最新玩意或樣式;我們要賺更多的錢，因為有錢我們才能享受美好生活。

　　But none of that will bring us happiness. No matter how much we earn, no matter how much we have in the bank, no matter how nice our clothing or cars or toys, none of it will make us happier. And the sad thing is that it could take us decades of pursuing wealth and luxury items before we realize this.

　　但那些東西都不能給我們帶來幸福。不管我們賺多少錢，無論我們在銀行存有多少錢，無論我們的衣著，轎車或玩具有多么漂亮，都不會使我們更幸福。而可悲的是，它可以讓我們數(shù)十年如一日不斷追求財富和奢侈品，直到現(xiàn)在才明白這一點。

　　So what will bring us happiness? Luckily, it's three things that don't cost a thing. These three things have been prove by research - surveys of hundreds of thousands of people about what they have, what their lives are like, and how happy they are.

　　那么什么才能帶給我們幸福呢?謝天謝地，有三樣?xùn)|西，不花分文就可得到。通過對數(shù)十萬人進行的研究-調(diào)查，這三樣?xùn)|西的價值已經(jīng)得以證明，調(diào)查的問題是他們的經(jīng)濟現(xiàn)狀，他們的生活情況，以及他們的幸福程度。

　　Here they are, the Three Secrets to Happiness:

　　以下就是，幸福三秘笈：

　　Good relationships. We have a human need to be close, to be intimate, with other human beings. Having good, supportive friendships, a strong marriage or close and loving relationships with our family members will make us much more likely to be happy. Action steps: Take time, today, to spend time with your loved ones, to tell them what they mean to you, to listen to them, and develop your relationship with them.

　　良好的人際關(guān)系。我們?nèi)祟愋枰推渌擞H近，親密。建立良好的，互助式友誼，穩(wěn)定的婚姻，或家庭成員之間親密友善關(guān)系會讓我們變得更幸福。行動步驟：需要時間，從今天開始，拿出時間與你的親人在一起，告訴他們他們對你多重要，傾聽他們談話，培養(yǎng)你與他們的關(guān)系。

　　Positive thinking. I'm obviously a big proponent of positive thinking as the best way to achieve your goals, but it turns out that it can lead to happiness too. Optimism and self-esteem are some of the best indicators of people who lead happy lives. Happy people feel empowered, in control of their lives, and have a positive outlook on life. Action steps: Make positive thinking a habit. In fact, this should be one of the first habits you develop. Get into the habit of squashing all negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones. Instead of "I can't" think "I can" . It may sound corny, but it has worked for me, every time.

　　積極的心態(tài)。我一直旗幟鮮明地支持，積極心態(tài)是實現(xiàn)自己目標(biāo)的最佳方法，但事實證明，它還可以帶來幸福感。樂觀和自尊是擁有幸福生活人們的一些最佳指標(biāo)?？鞓返娜烁杏X精力充沛，生活有序，并有積極的人生觀。行動步驟：養(yǎng)成積極思維的習(xí)慣。事實上，這是你應(yīng)該形成的一個首要習(xí)慣。養(yǎng)成習(xí)慣，摒棄所有的消極想法，代之以積極的心態(tài)。不要總想“我不能”，要想到“我能”。這聽起來好似陳詞濫調(diào)，但對于我來說每一次都有好效果。

　　Flow. This is a popular concept on the Internet these days - the state we enter when we are completely focused on the work or task before us. We are so immersed in our task that we lose track of time. Having work and leisure that gets you in this state of flow will almost undoubtedly lead to happiness. People find greatest enjoyment not when they're passively mindless, but when they're absorbed in a mindful challenge. Action steps: Find work that you're passionate about. Seriously - this is an extremely important step. Find hobbies that you're passionate about. Turn off the TV - this is the opposite of flow - and get outside and do something that truly engages you.

　　心流感應(yīng)。這是當(dāng)今互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上一個很流行的概念 - 是一種當(dāng)我們?nèi)硇耐度胙矍暗娜蝿?wù)或工作時所進入的狀態(tài)。我們?nèi)褙炞⒂谀稠検虑?，全然忘記時間。讓你達(dá)到這種心流狀態(tài)的工作和休閑，毫無疑問將讓你感到幸福。人們在消極懈怠狀態(tài)下是不可能感受到最大的快樂，只有當(dāng)他們?nèi)硇拿鎸σ豁椓钊诵膭拥奶魬?zhàn)時才能贏得這種感受。行動步驟：尋找你最鐘情的工作。一定要認(rèn)真謹(jǐn)慎 - 這是極其重要的一步。找到你喜歡的愛好。關(guān)掉電視 - 看電視不利于心流的產(chǎn)生 - 到外面去，做一些真正吸引你的事情。

　　You've been given the Three Secrets to Happiness. Don't waste them!

　　你已經(jīng)得到了幸福三秘笈。千萬不可棄之不用!