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　　My wife and I have three small children. Chinese friends often ask why three children, not oneor none: Doesn’t raising three children limit my career in business and in my wife’s case,teaching?

　　The acronym DINK -- double income, no kids -- originated in the US in the 1960s. Fearingthat children might constrain their freedom, married working women began to avoidpregnancy; the result was many busy, prosperous young DINK couples. This choice was notirrational. After all, nowadays retired people can live on their pensions and savings, so they areno longer compelled to depend on their offspring in old age. And a child is undeniably anexpensive proposition: so much time and money are required. Why bother having one? It ishard to condemn those who opt out of parenthood. And in China their decisions are perfectlyin keeping with the drive to limit population growth.

　　Yet few couples with children would agree that they were stupid to become parents. Mostare very happy that they have had the experience of witnessing a child grow to maturity. Ababy enters the world with a mind like blank paper, and gradually he or she acquires the abilityto think, to talk and finally to communicate easily. Isn’t there something magical about it?When you see the process happening before your very eyes, you feel a happiness like no other.

　　A Chinese DINK said to me recently, "If you didn’t have three children, you could go to a baror the cinema with your wife on weekends -- how unrestrained and romantic that would be!"But I would say that no matter how wonderful Hollywood films or Broadway performances are,watching them is far less interesting than seeing my extrovert of a daughter sing and dance. Ifit’s true that there are rewards to be gotten from having children, then surely the happiness ofseeing them grow up is the greatest. Another Chinese friend of mine complained: " I providedthe funds for my child to go to college and then off to America for a master’s degree, but sofar I haven’t gotten any rewards out of playing parent." To him I would say that the rewardswere there all along -- for any parent open to the wonder of seeing a child begin to speak, orsurprise us with a new word used for the first time.

　　But this is a happiness that can be felt only after you become a parent; there’s noappreciating it otherwise. However, who begets a child out of curiosity to see him or her growup? None of my friends had this in mind when they or their wife got pregnant. For some thepregnancy was unexpected. Others had parents eager to have grandchildren. A few said theyhad children because a person’s life would be incomplete without one. Some said that therewere millions and millions of children in the world and they just wanted to see what theirs wouldbe like. And some said that having a child can bring stability to a troubled marriage -- but isthat really true? I myself didn’t give it much thought. I just assumed it was the natural thing todo, and since my wife enjoyed big, cheerful, lively families, we went ahead and had three kids.No regrets.

　　I know my words won’t change any minds. What DINKs say is obviously true: childrenreally do require lots of parental energy and money. Just watch a mother bring a sick child to ahospital; you can see the tension, the worry, and all the self-control it takes to seem calm andreassuring. No, raising a child is not easy. The happiness of seeing a child grow, in contrast, islargely in the mind of the parents, and other people cannot so readily perceive it. Indeed, if Iwere not writing on this subject for the BeijingYouthDaily, I would be very unlikely to goaround telling all and sundry how happy I am to be the father of my trio. Little wonder, then,that so many people without children believe parenthood is all work and no fun.

　　I repeat: each individual has his or her own reasons for wanting or not wanting children,and his or her own happiness to build. The saddest people are those who have children butcome to regret it, for whatever reason. Regretful parents are usually closed to family happiness.And without the happiness, all that remain are the burdens. This kind of family is frequentlyrocked by conflict, and divorce often ends the story. So any couple who want a child shouldfirst be confident that their marriage is sound. Children deserve better than to be the victimsof marital crisis.

　　(本文作者是美國(guó)華裔，現(xiàn)在北京工作。他的三個(gè)孩子分別是5歲、3歲和1歲。)

　　我和妻子有三個(gè)小孩，中國(guó)朋友常問(wèn)我們，為什么要三個(gè)孩子———而不是一個(gè)或根本不要?養(yǎng)育三個(gè)孩子會(huì)不會(huì)影響我倆事業(yè)的發(fā)展(我經(jīng)商，妻子是教師)?

　　丁克家庭(夫妻二人都工作但沒(méi)有孩子的英文縮寫(xiě))起源于上個(gè)世紀(jì)六十年代的美國(guó)。由于擔(dān)心孩子會(huì)限制自己的自由，結(jié)了婚的職業(yè)女性開(kāi)始避孕，結(jié)果是出現(xiàn)了許多忙忙碌碌而事業(yè)成功的丁克夫婦。這種選擇并非不理性。要知道，如今退休后可以靠養(yǎng)老金和積蓄過(guò)日子，而不再像過(guò)去那樣，老時(shí)必須依靠子女。再說(shuō)，養(yǎng)育孩子是件高投入的事，這一點(diǎn)無(wú)可否認(rèn)———需要付出那么多的時(shí)間和金錢(qián)。那何必費(fèi)心勞神要孩子呢?我們很難指責(zé)那些決定不當(dāng)父母的夫婦。在中國(guó)，他們的決定與實(shí)行控制人口增長(zhǎng)的國(guó)策是完全一致的。

　　不過(guò)，在有孩子的夫婦中，很少有人贊成他們當(dāng)了父母是犯傻的觀點(diǎn)，絕大多數(shù)都非常高興自己能親眼目睹一個(gè)孩子走向成熟。一個(gè)嬰兒來(lái)到人世，其頭腦就像一張白紙，漸漸地，他(她)能思考了，能說(shuō)話(huà)了，最后，能與人不費(fèi)力氣地交流了，這難道不是很神奇嗎?當(dāng)這個(gè)神奇的過(guò)程就發(fā)生在眼前，你會(huì)感到一種無(wú)可比擬的快樂(lè)。

　　最近，一位中國(guó)“丁克”對(duì)我說(shuō)：“你要是沒(méi)有三個(gè)孩子，周末與太太去酒吧或電影院———那多自在、多浪漫啊!”可我要說(shuō)，無(wú)論好萊塢的影片、百老匯的表演多么精彩，都遠(yuǎn)不如看我那活潑外向的小女兒又唱又跳有趣。如果說(shuō)養(yǎng)育孩子確有回報(bào)的話(huà)，看著他們長(zhǎng)大所感受到的樂(lè)趣就是最大的回報(bào)。另一位中國(guó)朋友向我抱怨道：“我供孩子上了大學(xué)，又供他去美國(guó)讀碩士學(xué)位，可到現(xiàn)在為止我還沒(méi)從為人父母中得到任何回報(bào)。”對(duì)他的抱怨，我會(huì)說(shuō)，回報(bào)早就有啦———任何樂(lè)于看孩子開(kāi)口說(shuō)話(huà)、或看孩子第一次用了某個(gè)詞語(yǔ)而引起驚喜的父母，都能獲得這種回報(bào)。

　　但這種快樂(lè)只有當(dāng)你當(dāng)了父母之后才能感受到，否則不可能真正體會(huì)?？墒?，有誰(shuí)要孩子是出于想看孩子怎么長(zhǎng)大的好奇心呢?在我的朋友當(dāng)中，沒(méi)有一個(gè)是這樣想的。有人懷孕是不期而至，有的是由于自己的父母急于想抱孫子，有的說(shuō)要孩子是因?yàn)闆](méi)有孩子人生就不完整，有的說(shuō)世上有億萬(wàn)兒童，就想知道自己的孩子是什么樣，還有的說(shuō)，孩子能讓有問(wèn)題的婚姻穩(wěn)定———果真如此嗎?我本人倒是沒(méi)太考慮要孩子的理由，只是覺(jué)得這是一件自然而然的事，而且我妻子喜歡活潑歡快的大家庭，于是就要了三個(gè)孩子。我們樂(lè)在其中，絲毫不悔。

　　我知道我的話(huà)不會(huì)讓任何人改變想法。丁克們說(shuō)的顯然是實(shí)情：孩子需要父母付出大量精力和金錢(qián)?？纯匆晃荒赣H帶孩子去看病的情形吧：她緊張，憂(yōu)慮，還要自我克制以顯得鎮(zhèn)靜，讓孩子安心。是的，養(yǎng)育孩子絕非易事。與這種人人看得見(jiàn)的操勞相比，看著一個(gè)孩子成長(zhǎng)感受到的快樂(lè)存在于父母的心中，別人無(wú)法輕易感受到。實(shí)際上，要不是為《北京青年報(bào)》就這一題目寫(xiě)文章，我不會(huì)逢人便說(shuō)做三個(gè)孩子的父親是多么幸福，而那么多沒(méi)有孩子的人認(rèn)為當(dāng)父母就只意味著辛勞而無(wú)任何樂(lè)趣也是不足為怪的。

　　說(shuō)來(lái)說(shuō)去，要孩子還是不要孩子，每個(gè)人都有自己的理由，有自己所追求的快樂(lè)。最為不幸的是那些有了孩子但出于某種原因卻又后悔的人。這些后悔的父母往往不能感受到家庭快樂(lè)。而沒(méi)有了快樂(lè)，剩下的就全是負(fù)擔(dān)了。這種家庭常常會(huì)被沖突所動(dòng)搖，往往以離婚收?qǐng)?。所以，任何想要孩子的夫婦首先應(yīng)確信其婚姻是穩(wěn)固的。孩子不該成為婚姻危機(jī)的犧牲品，他們理應(yīng)擁有更好的生活。