雙語(yǔ)閱讀：重視自我價(jià)值

　　摘要：從那以后，我一直相信自己足夠優(yōu)秀，因而拒絕一些事并不會(huì)影響我的前途。事實(shí)上，不帶任何揣測(cè)或借口，直率地表達(dá)內(nèi)心所求，正能表現(xiàn)出你對(duì)自己的珍視。戰(zhàn)勝這些難以應(yīng)付的時(shí)刻，你會(huì)得到自己的內(nèi)心所求。

　　After I had my second child, I wanted to show my boss I could handle anything. I said yes tocoming back too soon and working the overnight shift! I was so beat, I fell down the stairsholding my baby — she spent eight weeks in a body cast. She's fine now, but that was anexcruciating price to pay for not being able to say no.

　　Since then, I've trusted that I'm good enough that saying no won't hurt my prospects.Actually, being direct about what you want — without second-guessing or excuses — showsyou value yourself. Power through awkward moments like these and you'll get to your yes.

　　在我第二個(gè)孩子出生以后，我想向老板證明自己能搞定所有事情。于是，我過(guò)早地答應(yīng)了回去上班，而且還是上夜班!這讓我累壞了，以至于抱著孩子從樓梯上摔了下來(lái)——因此她全身打了八周的石膏。她現(xiàn)在康復(fù)了，但是因?yàn)椴欢镁芙^而付出這樣的代價(jià)是令人痛苦至極的。

　　從那以后，我一直相信自己足夠優(yōu)秀，因而拒絕一些事并不會(huì)影響我的前途。事實(shí)上，不帶任何揣測(cè)或借口，直率地表達(dá)內(nèi)心所求，正能表現(xiàn)出你對(duì)自己的珍視。戰(zhàn)勝這些難以應(yīng)付的時(shí)刻，你會(huì)得到自己的內(nèi)心所求。

重視自我價(jià)值

　　1. The I-Do-Not-Need-That No

　　對(duì)不需要的事物說(shuō)不

　　You find the perfect dress for your friend's bachelorette. Then the saleswoman starts insistingyou get this belt and those earrings too.

　　你選中了一條完美的裙子去參加朋友的單身派對(duì)，這時(shí)導(dǎo)購(gòu)小姐便開(kāi)始抓住你不放，給你推銷各式各樣的腰帶和耳環(huán)來(lái)搭配。

　　"I love that, but I'm not going to get it today." The sales assistant is just doing her job — shedoesn't take a no personally and you shouldn't either. You're wasting her time by acting likeyou'redeliberating or putting something on hold just for show. Say no, be lovely about it ... andleave.

　　“我很喜歡它們，但是今天不打算買。”導(dǎo)購(gòu)員只是在做她的本職工作——她不會(huì)把你的拒絕當(dāng)做針對(duì)她個(gè)人的，并且你也不應(yīng)該這么覺(jué)得。你假裝考慮或者故作遲疑都是在浪費(fèi)她的時(shí)間。你只需友好地拒絕，然后離開(kāi)。

　　2. The Parent-Trap No

　　對(duì)“父母束縛”說(shuō)不

　　Mom and Dad invite you on a cruise. You get only two weeks off and think this would be anawful way to spend one of them.

　　父母邀你一同游輪度假。你只有兩周的休息時(shí)間，而且覺(jué)得要花其中一周和他們?cè)谝黄饘?shí)在是個(gè)糟糕的主意。

　　"I love you and that's so generous, but I can't. How about a weekend visit?" Time with youmay be more important to them than the plan. Be quick and sweet, and don't make up a story.They knew when you were lying at age 8; they'll know now. P.S. Don't get guilted! You're anadult!

　　“我愛(ài)你們，請(qǐng)我去度假實(shí)在是太好了，但我沒(méi)辦法去。我周末去看你們?cè)趺礃?”對(duì)于他們來(lái)說(shuō)，和你在一起的時(shí)光，或許比度假計(jì)劃重要得多。果斷貼心地回答，而不要撒謊。你8歲時(shí)的謊言就瞞不過(guò)他們的眼睛，現(xiàn)在依然如此。另外，別為此心懷內(nèi)疚!你已經(jīng)是個(gè)大人了!

　　3. The "U Up?" No

　　對(duì)不良約會(huì)說(shuō)不

　　The Guy You Want to Date says, "Let's hang Saturday." At 1 a.m., he finally texts, indicatinghis interest in, ahem, hanging. Nuh-uh.

　　你心儀的男神說(shuō)：“周六一起出去吧。”結(jié)果到半夜1點(diǎn)，他終于來(lái)短信，暗示他想的……咳咳……不止是出去而已。

　　Text, "No thanks." Wait a beat. Then, "But dinner Wednesday?" If you want more, don't takeless for fear he'll disappear. Forget about jumping like it's the president calling! You'll saveyourself months of pain by being clear with him and sticking to your decision.

　　短信回復(fù)：”還是不了，謝謝。“等一下，再接著回：”周三一起吃晚飯?jiān)趺礃?“如果你想要他全心全意，就不能因?yàn)楹ε率ニ笕?。千萬(wàn)不要高興得跳起來(lái)，好像是總統(tǒng)給你打的電話。和他說(shuō)清楚，并且堅(jiān)持你的想法，這會(huì)使自己免受數(shù)月的煎熬。

　　4. The Weekend-Work No

　　對(duì)周末加班說(shuō)不

　　Your boss asks you to work on Saturday, but your cousin is getting married.

　　上司讓你周六加班，但是你的表親這周結(jié)婚。

　　"I would love to work on that with you, but I have a big family event. What if I stayed late Fridaynight?" Apologizing or going into an absurd amount of detail seems weak. Be calm and makeeye contact and she'll respect what you're saying. Then follow up with an alternative solutionif you can, so everyone wins.”

　　我很想跟著你加班，但是我這周家里有件大事。不如我周五加個(gè)晚班怎樣?“道歉或者解釋一大堆荒.唐的細(xì)枝末節(jié)顯得太無(wú)力。冷靜地采用眼神交流，她會(huì)尊重你的決定。接著，如果可以的話，提出一個(gè)變通的方案，這樣就能雙贏了。

　　5. The Kickstarter No

　　對(duì)籌資活動(dòng)說(shuō)不

　　Your friend has a great idea for a vegan-snack-sample-delivery business, but you do not havethedough.

　　你的朋友想辦一個(gè)素食小點(diǎn)心的派送活動(dòng)，但你并沒(méi)有這個(gè)閑錢。

　　"I just gave to another friend's charity race, so I'm tapped out. Can I help by making an introfor you instead?" Little white lies can be okay. You don't have to share details about yourfinances with friends. Value the work you did to earn your money, and donate only to causesthat move you.

　　“我剛剛捐助了另一位朋友的慈善活動(dòng)，現(xiàn)在手頭有點(diǎn)緊。不如我?guī)湍阈麄饕幌?”小小的善意謊言沒(méi)有多大問(wèn)題。你并不需要和朋友公開(kāi)經(jīng)濟(jì)狀況的細(xì)節(jié)。珍惜你辛苦工作掙得的錢，捐助給真正打動(dòng)你的那些活動(dòng)。

　　Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold.

　　今天我要加倍重視自己的價(jià)值。

　　A mulberry leaf touched with the genius of man becomes silk.

　　桑葉在天才的手中變成了絲綢。

　　A field of clay touched with the genius of man becomes a castle.

　　粘土在天才的手中變成了堡壘。

　　A Cyprus tree touched with the genius of man becomes a shrine.

　　柏樹(shù)在天才的手中變成了殿堂。

　　A cut of sheep's hair touched with the genius of man becomes raiment for a king.

　　羊毛在天才的手中變成了袈裟。

　　If it is possible for leaves and clay and wood and hair to have their value multiplied a hundred, yea a thousandfold by man, cannot I do the same with the clay which bears my name?

　　如果桑葉、粘土、柏樹(shù)、羊毛經(jīng)過(guò)人的創(chuàng)造，可以成百上千地提高自身的價(jià)值，那么我們?yōu)槭裁床荒苁棺约荷韮r(jià)百倍呢?

　　Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold.

　　今天我要加倍重視自己的價(jià)值。

　　I am liken to a grain of wheat which faces one of three futures. The wheat can be placed in a sack and dumped in a stall until it is fed to swine. Or it can be ground to flour and made into bread. Or it can be placed in the earth and allowed to grow until its golden head divides and produces a thousand grains from the one.

　　我的命運(yùn)如同一顆麥粒，有著三種不同的道路。一顆麥?？赡鼙谎b進(jìn)麻袋，堆在貨架上，等著喂豬;也可能被磨成面粉，做成面包;還可能撒在土壤里，讓它生長(zhǎng)，直到金黃的麥穗上結(jié)出成百上千顆麥粒。

　　I am liken to a grain of wheat with one difference. The wheat cannot choose whether it be fed to swine, ground for bread, or planted to multiply. I have a choice and I will not let my life be fed to swine nor will I let it be ground under the rocks of failure and despair to be broken open and devoured by the will of others.

　　我和一顆麥粒唯一不同在于：麥粒無(wú)法選擇是變得腐爛還是做成面包，或是種植生長(zhǎng)。而我有選擇的自由，我不會(huì)讓生命腐爛，也不會(huì)讓它在失敗，絕望的巖石下磨碎，任人擺布。

　　Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold.

　　今天我要加倍重視自己的價(jià)值。

　　To grow and multiply it is necessary to plant the wheat grain in the darkness of the earth and my failures, my despairs, my ignorance, and my inabilities are the darkness in which I have been planted in order to ripen. Now, like the wheat grain which will sprout and blossom only if it is nurtured with rain and sun and warm winds, I too must nurture my body and mind to fulfill my dreams. But to grow to full stature the wheat must wait on the whims of nature. I need not wait for I have the power to choose my own destiny.

　　要想讓麥粒生長(zhǎng)、結(jié)實(shí)，必須把它種植在黑暗的泥土中，我的失敗、失望、無(wú)知、無(wú)能便是那黑暗的泥土，我須深深地扎在泥土中，等待成熟。麥粒在陽(yáng)光雨露的哺育下，終于發(fā)芽、開(kāi)花、結(jié)實(shí)。同樣，我也要健全自己的身體和心靈，以實(shí)現(xiàn)自己的夢(mèng)想。麥粒須等待大自然的契機(jī)方能成熟，我卻無(wú)須等待，因?yàn)槲矣羞x擇自己命運(yùn)的能力。

　　Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold.

　　今天我要加倍重視自己的價(jià)值。

　　And how will I accomplish this? First I will set goals for the day, the week, the month, the year, and my life. Just as the rain must fall before the wheat will crack its shell and sprout, so must I have objectives before my life will crystallize. Insetting my goals I will consider my best performance of the past and multiply it a hundredfold. This will be the standard by which I will live in the future. Never will I be of concern that my goals are too high for is it not better to aim my spear at the moon and strike only an eagle than to arm my spear at the eagle and strike only a rock?

　　怎樣才能做到呢?首先，我要為每一天，每個(gè)星期、每個(gè)月。每一年、甚至我的一生確立目標(biāo)。正像種子需要雨水的滋潤(rùn)才能破土而出，發(fā)芽長(zhǎng)葉，我的生命也須有目的方能結(jié)出碩果。在制定目標(biāo)的時(shí)候，不妨參考過(guò)去最好的成績(jī)，使其發(fā)揚(yáng)光大。這必須成為我未來(lái)生活的目標(biāo)。永遠(yuǎn)不要當(dāng)心目標(biāo)過(guò)高。取法乎上，得其中也，取法中也，得其下也。

　　Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold.

　　今天我要加倍重視自己的價(jià)值。

　　The height of my goals will not hold me in awe though I may stumble often before they are reached. If I stumble I will rise and my falls will not concern me for all men must stumble often to reach the hearth. Only a worm is free from the worry of stumbling. I am not a worm. I am not an onion plant. I am not a sheep. I am a man. Let others build a cave with their clay. I will build a castle with mine.

　　高遠(yuǎn)的目標(biāo)不會(huì)讓我們望而生畏，雖然在達(dá)到目標(biāo)以前可能屢受挫折。摔倒了，再爬起來(lái)，我不灰心因?yàn)槊總€(gè)人在抵達(dá)目標(biāo)之前都會(huì)受到挫折。只有小爬蟲(chóng)不必?fù)?dān)心摔倒。我不是小爬蟲(chóng)，不是洋蔥，不是綿羊。我是一個(gè)人。讓別人作他們的粘土造穴吧，我只要一座城堡。

　　Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold.

　　今天我么加倍重視自己的價(jià)值。

　　And just as the sun must warm the earth to bring forth the seedling of wheat so, too, will the words on these scrolls warm my life and turn my dreams into reality. Today I will surpass every action which I performed yesterday. I will climb today's mountain to the utmost of my ability yet tomorrow I will climb higher than today, and the next will be higher than tomorrow. To surpass the deeds of others is unimportant; to surpass my own deeds is all.

　　太陽(yáng)溫暖大地，麥粒吐穗結(jié)實(shí)。這些羊皮卷上的話也照耀我的生活，使夢(mèng)想成真。今天我要超越昨天的成就。我要竭盡全力攀登今天的高峰，明天更上一層樓。超越別人并不重要，超越自己才是最重要的。

　　Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold.

　　今天我要加倍重視自己的價(jià)值。

　　And just as the warm wind guides the wheat to maturity, the same winds will carry my voice to those who will listen and my words will announce my goals. Once spoken I dare not recall them lest I lose face. I will be as my own prophet and though all may laugh at my utterances they will hear my plans, they will know my dreams; and thus there will be no escape for me until my words become accomplished deeds.

　　春風(fēng)吹熟了麥穗，風(fēng)聲也將我的聲音吹往那些愿意聆聽(tīng)者的耳畔。我要宣告我的目標(biāo)。君子一言，駟馬難追。我要成為自己的預(yù)言家。雖然大家可能嘲笑我的言辭但會(huì)傾聽(tīng)我的計(jì)劃，了解我的夢(mèng)想，因?yàn)槲覠o(wú)處可逃，直到兌現(xiàn)了諾言。

　　Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold.

　　今天我要加倍重視自己的價(jià)值。

　　I will commit not the terrible crime of aiming too low.

　　我不能放低目標(biāo)。

　　I will do the work that a failure will not do.

　　我要做失敗者不屑一顧的事。

　　I will always let my reach exceed my grasp.

　　我不停留在力所能及的事上。

　　I will never be content with my performance in the market.

　　我不滿足于現(xiàn)有的成就。

　　I will always raise my goals as soon as they are attained.

　　目標(biāo)達(dá)到后再定一個(gè)更高的目標(biāo)。

　　I will always strive to make the next hour better than this one.

　　我要努力使下一刻比此刻更好。

　　I will always announce my goals to the world.

　　我要常常向世人宣告我的目標(biāo)。

　　Yet, never will I proclaim my accomplishments. Let the world, instead, approach me with praise and may I have the wisdom to receive it in humility.

　　但是我決不炫耀我的成績(jī)。讓世人來(lái)贊美我的吧，但愿我能明智而謙恭地接受它們。

　　Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold.

　　今天我要加倍重視自己的價(jià)值。

　　One grain of wheat when multiplied a hundredfold will produce a hundred stalks. Multiply these a hundredfold, ten times, and they will feed all the cities of the earth. Am I not more than a grain of wheat?

　　一顆麥粒增加數(shù)倍以后，可以變成千株麥苗，再把這些麥苗增加數(shù)倍，如此數(shù)十次，它們可以供養(yǎng)世上所有的城市。難道我不如一顆麥粒嗎?

　　Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold.

　　今天我要加倍重視自己的價(jià)值。

　　And when it is done I will do it again, and again, and there will be astonishment and wonder at my greatness as the words of these scrolls are fulfilled in me.

　　當(dāng)我完成這件事，我再接再勵(lì)。當(dāng)羊皮卷上的話在我身上實(shí)現(xiàn)時(shí)，世上會(huì)驚嘆我的偉大。