以下是小編整理的哲理類英語(yǔ)美文欣賞：怎樣脫解尷尬 做一個(gè)健談的人，希望對(duì)你有所感觸。

　　Are you a good conversationalist? What makes someone a good conversationalist? Being agood conversationalist is important in every context, be it in business, social, or dating.

　　你是不是一名好的健談?wù)?什么能讓你變得健談呢?無(wú)論在何種情況下，作為一名好的健談?wù)叨际欠浅Ｖ匾?，無(wú)論是商業(yè)、還是社交或是約會(huì)。

　　I don’t think there are any “tricks” or shady techniques you have to apply to be a greatconversationalist. Below are ten timeless rules I apply to all my conversations:

　　我認(rèn)為要想成為好的健談?wù)?，不需要任何?ldquo;招數(shù)”或不正當(dāng)?shù)氖址?。下面是我用到談話中永不過(guò)時(shí)的10條原則：

　　1. Be genuinely interested in the person.

　　對(duì)談話的人真正感興趣

　　Who is this person? What’s on his/her mind? What does he/she enjoy doing? What motivateshim/her in life? These are the questions I have for every single person I meet. Since people formthe core of my life purpose (to help others grow), my genuine interest in people, from whothey are to what they do, comes naturally.

　　這個(gè)人是誰(shuí)?他/她在想什么?他/她喜歡做什么?什么激勵(lì)著他/她的生活?我每遇見一個(gè)人，我都會(huì)想這樣的問(wèn)題。由于人們形成了我生活目標(biāo)的核心(幫助他人成長(zhǎng))， 我對(duì)他人的興趣，從他們是誰(shuí)到他們做什么，就很自然地產(chǎn)生了。

　　Such genuine interest, not an artificial one, is essential to making a conversation fly. If youare not interested in the other person, then why speak to him/her to begin with? Move on tosomeone you really want to talk to. Life is too short to be spent doing things you don’t like.

　　這樣的興趣是發(fā)自內(nèi)心的，而不是虛假的， 這是讓談話出彩的必要條件。如果你對(duì)他人不敢興趣，為什么要和他/她說(shuō)話呢?去和你真正想談話的人說(shuō)話。生活苦短，不要把它浪費(fèi)在你不喜歡的事情上。

　　2. Focus on the positives.

　　關(guān)注正能量

　　Which means rather than talk about past grievances, opt for a discussion of future goals.Rather than talk about the coffee that spilled on your table this morning, talk about that movieyou are looking forward to watch later in the evening. It’s okay to talk about “negative” topics(read: topics that trigger negative emotions) once in a while, but only when you feel it is okaywith the other party and when it has a specific purpose (e.g., to get to know the other personbetter or to bond with the person).

　　也就是說(shuō)與其談?wù)撨^(guò)去的悲傷，不如去討論未來(lái)的目標(biāo)。與其談?wù)摻裉煸绯繛⒃谀阕雷由系目Х龋蝗缯務(wù)撘幌峦砩夏阆肟吹碾娪?。偶爾談?wù)撘幌?ldquo;負(fù)面”話題(能產(chǎn)生負(fù)面情緒的話題)也是可以的， 但最好是當(dāng)你覺得對(duì)方也能接受并且有特定目的時(shí)(比如，更好地了解對(duì)方或和對(duì)方建立聯(lián)系)。

　　3. Converse, not debate (or argue).

　　交談而不是辯論(爭(zhēng)吵)

　　A conversation should be a platform where opinions are aired, not a battle ground to pitone’s stance against another. Be ready to chat, discuss, and trash out ideas, but do soamiably. There’s no need to have a conclusion or agreement point in every discussion; if aconvergence has to be met with everything that is mooted, the conversation would be verydraining. Allow for things to be left open-ended if a common point can’t be achieved.

　　談話應(yīng)該是交流觀點(diǎn)的平臺(tái)，而不是一對(duì)一的硝煙戰(zhàn)場(chǎng)。準(zhǔn)備交談、談?wù)摵颓謇硐敕?，態(tài)度要和藹。沒有必要每次討論都要下結(jié)論或達(dá)成一致。如果每次都談?dòng)袪?zhēng)議的內(nèi)容，那么談話會(huì)非常吃力。如果無(wú)法達(dá)到共識(shí)，可以讓事物處于開放狀態(tài)。

　　4. Respect.

　　尊重

　　don’t impose, criticize, or judge. Respect other people’s point of view. Respect other people’sspace—don’t encroach on the person’s privacy unless a common bond has beenestablished. Respect other people’s personal choices—don’t criticize or judge. Everyone hashis/her right to be him/herself, just as you have the right to be yourself.

　　不要強(qiáng)加、批評(píng)或評(píng)判。尊重他人的觀點(diǎn)，尊重他人的空間——不要侵犯他人的隱私除非建立了共同的聯(lián)系;尊重他人的個(gè)人選擇——不要批評(píng)或評(píng)判。每個(gè)人都有自己的權(quán)利成為他/她自己， 就像你有權(quán)利成為你自己一樣。

　　5. Put the person in his/her best light.

　　看別人最好的方面

　　Always look for ways to make the person look good. Give credit where credit is due. Recognizetalent where you see it. Drop compliments where appropriate. Allow the person to shine inhis/her own light.

　　總是去看別人好的一面。該贊美時(shí)就贊美。看到才能要識(shí)別出來(lái)。在適當(dāng)?shù)臅r(shí)候?qū)e人加以贊美。讓別人展出自己最好的一面。

　　6. Embrace differences while building on commonalities.

　　求同存異

　　Everyone is different. At the same time, there are always commonalities across people. For thedifferences, embrace them. They make all of us unique. Agree to disagree if there are clashesin ideas.As you talk to the other person, look for commonalities between you and him/her.

　　每個(gè)人都是不同的。在同一時(shí)刻，人們都有著共性。對(duì)不同之處，要加以擁抱。正是這些不同之處才讓我們每個(gè)人都獨(dú)一無(wú)二。如果想法有沖突，則求同存異。當(dāng)你和他人交談時(shí)，尋找你和他/她的共同之處。

　　Once you find a common link, build on it. Use that as a platform to spin off more discussionswhich will then reveal more about both of you. For the new commonalities that get unveiled,build on them further.

　　一旦你找到了共同的地方，在它上面建造你們的關(guān)系。把它作為一個(gè)平臺(tái)，進(jìn)行更多的討論，這樣你們都會(huì)更好地了解彼此。對(duì)于發(fā)現(xiàn)的新的共同之處，可以在這個(gè)基礎(chǔ)上進(jìn)一步交流。

　　7. Be true to yourself.

　　做真實(shí)的自己

　　Your best asset is your true personality. Don’t cover it up. It’ll be pretty boring if all you do ismime the other person’s words during a conversation; there wouldn’t be anything to discussat all. Be ready to share your real thoughts and opinions (not in a combative manner of course—see #3). Be proud of what you stand for and be ready to let others know the real you.

　　你最好的資本是你真實(shí)的個(gè)性，不要把它掩蓋起來(lái)。如果你所做的就是在談話中模仿另一個(gè)人說(shuō)話那會(huì)非常單調(diào);根本就沒有什么可以談?wù)摰?。?zhǔn)備好分享自己真實(shí)的想法和觀點(diǎn)(不要用好斗的方式——參見#3)。對(duì)自己的立場(chǎng)感到自豪，并讓別人認(rèn)識(shí)真正的你。

　　8. 50-50 sharing.

　　50-50分享

　　I always think that a great conversation should be made up of equal sharing by both parties.Sometimes it may be 40-60 or 60-40 depending on the circumstances, but by and large, bothparties should have equal opportunities to share and contribute to the conversation.Whatthis means is that you should be sensitive enough to pose questions to the other party if youhave been talking for a while.

　　我總是在想，好的談話應(yīng)當(dāng)是由雙方共同分享組成的。根據(jù)環(huán)境，有時(shí)可能是40-60，有時(shí)可能是60-40，但是總的來(lái)說(shuō)，雙方應(yīng)該有平等的機(jī)遇來(lái)分享和參與談話。也就是說(shuō)你應(yīng)該足夠敏感，如果你已經(jīng)說(shuō)了一會(huì)兒了，應(yīng)該能夠?qū)?duì)方提出問(wèn)題。

　　It also means that you should take the initiative to share more about yourself if the otherparty has been sharing for the most part. Just because the person doesn’t ask doesn’t meanyou can’t share; sometimes people don’t pose questions because it is not in their natural self todo so.

　　這也意味著如果大部分的內(nèi)容是由對(duì)方分享的，那你應(yīng)該主動(dòng)分享自己的想法。別人不問(wèn)不代表這你不能分享;有時(shí)人們不問(wèn)問(wèn)題是因?yàn)樗麄兲焐辉高@樣做。

　　9. Ask purposeful questions.

　　詢問(wèn)有意義的問(wèn)題

　　Questions elicit answers. The kind of questions you ask will steer the direction of theconversation. To have a meaningful conversation with the other person, ask meaningfulquestions. Choose questions like, “What drives you in life?”, “What are your goals for the nextyear?” and “What inspired you to make this change?” over “What did you do yesterday?” and“What are you going to do later?”.

　　問(wèn)題會(huì)引出答案。你問(wèn)的問(wèn)題代表著談話的方向。要想和他人有有意義的談話，就得問(wèn)有意義的問(wèn)題?？梢赃x擇這樣的問(wèn)題，如“在生活中什么事情激勵(lì)著你前行?”,”你明年的目標(biāo)是什么?”以及“什么讓你做出這樣的改變?”，而不是問(wèn)“昨天你做了什么?”、“一會(huì)兒你要做什么?”

　　Some people may not be ready to take on conscious questions, and that’s fine. Start off withthe simple, trivial, everyday questions as you build a rapport. Then, get to know the personbetter through deeper, more revealing questions—when you think the person is ready toshare.

　　有些人可能不想回答意識(shí)層面的問(wèn)題，沒關(guān)系。從簡(jiǎn)單、瑣碎的、日常的問(wèn)題開始，逐步建立關(guān)系。然后，通過(guò)進(jìn)一步、更加揭露性的問(wèn)題來(lái)更好地了解對(duì)方——當(dāng)你認(rèn)為對(duì)方已經(jīng)愿意分享時(shí)。

　　10. Give and take.

　　給予和接受

　　Sometimes people say pretty weird stuff during conversations. For example, a criticalcomment here and there, a distasteful remark, and a bad joke. Don’t judge them for thosecomments; treat these blurts as Freudian slips. Usually I just laugh or shrug it off; it makes forfunny conversation banter.

　　有時(shí)人們?cè)谡勗挄r(shí)會(huì)說(shuō)一些很奇怪的內(nèi)容。例如，到處都有批評(píng)的評(píng)論、令人反感的話、糟糕的笑話。不要因?yàn)樗麄兊哪切┰u(píng)論而對(duì)他們加以評(píng)判;把這些脫口而出的話看成是弗洛伊德口誤。通常情況下我只是笑笑或聳聳肩;它也使得談話輕松有趣。