你認(rèn)為擁有愛(ài)情最好的時(shí)間是什么時(shí)候?一見(jiàn)鐘情，兩情相悅，還是雙宿雙棲?其實(shí)我們對(duì)愛(ài)情到來(lái)時(shí)的那種驚喜和浪漫存在某種誤解。下面是小編為大家收集關(guān)于TED英語(yǔ)演講：原來(lái)這才是擁有愛(ài)情的最好時(shí)間，歡迎借鑒參考。

　　原來(lái)這才是擁有愛(ài)情的最好時(shí)間

　　I published this article in the New York Times Modern Love column in January of this year. "To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This." And the article is about a psychological study designed to create romantic love in the laboratory, and my own experience trying the study myself one night last summer.

　　今年1月份我將這篇文章發(fā)表在《紐約時(shí)報(bào)》“現(xiàn)代愛(ài)情”專(zhuān)欄?！断霅?ài)上某人，你要這么做》這篇文章講的是一項(xiàng)心理學(xué)研究，如何在實(shí)驗(yàn)室創(chuàng)造出浪漫的愛(ài)情，我自己在去年一個(gè)夏夜也完成了這項(xiàng)試驗(yàn)。

　　So the procedure is fairly simple: two strangers take turns asking each other 36 increasingly personal questions and then they stare into each other's eyes without speaking for four minutes.

　　過(guò)程很簡(jiǎn)單：兩個(gè)陌生人輪流問(wèn)對(duì)方 36個(gè)問(wèn)題，問(wèn)題越來(lái)越私人化，然后四目相對(duì)， 一言不發(fā)地對(duì)視4分鐘。

　　So here are a couple of sample questions.

　　我選出了其中幾個(gè)問(wèn)題。

　　Number 12: If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

　　問(wèn)題12：如果你明早醒來(lái)能獲得一項(xiàng)品質(zhì)或能力，你希望是什么?

　　Number 28: When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

　　問(wèn)題28：你上一次當(dāng)著別人的面哭是什么時(shí)候?(上一次)獨(dú)自哭泣呢?

　　As you can see, they really do get more personal as they go along.

　　如大家所見(jiàn)，這些問(wèn)題的確越來(lái)越私人化。

　　Number 30, I really like this one: Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time,saying things you might not say to someone you just met.

　　問(wèn)題30，我很喜歡這一個(gè)：告訴對(duì)面的人，你喜歡他(她)什么，要非常誠(chéng)實(shí)，說(shuō)一些你也許不會(huì)對(duì)初次見(jiàn)面的人說(shuō)的話。

　　So when I first came across this study a few years earlier, one detail really stuck out to me, and that was the rumor that two of the participants had gotten married six months later, and they'd invited the entire lab to the ceremony. So I was of course very skeptical about this process of just manufacturing romantic love, but of course I was intrigued. And when I got the chance to try this study myself, with someone I knew but not particularly well, I wasn't expecting to fall in love. But then we did, and —

　　And I thought it made a good story, so I sent it to the Modern Love column a few months later.

　　因此當(dāng)我?guī)啄昵芭既宦?tīng)說(shuō)這個(gè)實(shí)驗(yàn)的時(shí)候，有一個(gè)細(xì)節(jié)真的打動(dòng)了我，我聽(tīng)到傳言，說(shuō)有兩個(gè)參加實(shí)驗(yàn)的人在半年后結(jié)婚了，他倆邀請(qǐng)了整個(gè)實(shí)驗(yàn)團(tuán)隊(duì)去參加婚禮。當(dāng)然，我非常懷疑這種完全人造的浪漫愛(ài)情，但同時(shí)我也很好奇。當(dāng)我自己也有機(jī)會(huì)去完成這個(gè)實(shí)驗(yàn)時(shí)——和一個(gè)我認(rèn)識(shí)但不是很熟的人——我完全沒(méi)想到我們會(huì)陷入愛(ài)河。但是我們真的陷進(jìn)去了，而且——我認(rèn)為這是一個(gè)精彩的故事，所以幾個(gè)月后，我將它發(fā)給了 “現(xiàn)代愛(ài)情”專(zhuān)欄。

　　Now, this was published in January, and now it is August, so I'm guessing that some of you are probably wondering, are we still together? And the reason I think you might be wondering this is because I have been asked this question again and again and again for the past seven months. And this question is really what I want to talk about today. But let's come back to it.

　　今年一月，文章發(fā)表了，現(xiàn)在是八月份，所以我想你們中間肯定有人在想，我倆是不是還在一起?我之所以知道你們想問(wèn)，是因?yàn)檫^(guò)去七個(gè)月里，我已經(jīng)被問(wèn)了無(wú)數(shù)次。我今天真的想回答這個(gè)問(wèn)題。但是讓我們先說(shuō)說(shuō)別的。

　　So the week before the article came out, I was very nervous. I had been working on a book about love stories for the past few years, so I had gotten used to writing about my own experiences with romantic love on my blog. But a blog post might get a couple hundred views at the most, and those were usually just my Facebook friends, and I figured my article in the New York Times would probably get a few thousand views. And that felt like a lot of attention on a relatively new relationship. But as it turned out, I had no idea.

　　在文章發(fā)表前一周，我非常緊張。我一直在寫(xiě)一本關(guān)于愛(ài)情的書(shū)，已經(jīng)好幾年了，我已經(jīng)習(xí)慣于在我的博客上分享我自己的愛(ài)情經(jīng)歷。然而博客可能最多只有幾百人在看，而且大多數(shù)是我“臉書(shū)”上的好友，而我發(fā)表到《紐約時(shí)報(bào)》上的文章，可能會(huì)有幾千人看。對(duì)一段剛剛確定的關(guān)系而言，關(guān)注的人有點(diǎn)太多了(不是件好事兒)。但對(duì)隨之而來(lái)的事情，我毫無(wú)準(zhǔn)備。

　　So the article was published online on a Friday evening, and by Saturday, this had happened to the traffic on my blog. And by Sunday, both the Today Show and Good Morning America had called. Within a month, the article would receive over 8 million views, and I was, to say the least, underprepared for this sort of attention. It's one thing to work up the confidence to write honestly about your experiences with love, but it is another thing to discover that your love life has made international news —and to realize that people across the world are genuinely invested in the status of your new relationship.

　　這篇文章上線是在一個(gè)周五的晚上，到周六的時(shí)候，我的博客訪問(wèn)量(暴漲)成了這個(gè)樣子。到周日的時(shí)候，《今日秀》和《早安美國(guó)》都給我打電話了。一個(gè)月之內(nèi)，這篇文章 被點(diǎn)擊超過(guò)800萬(wàn)次，所以，對(duì)我而言，我對(duì)如此高的關(guān)注度毫無(wú)準(zhǔn)備。鼓起勇氣，如實(shí)寫(xiě)出自己的戀愛(ài)經(jīng)歷是一回事;而發(fā)現(xiàn)自己的愛(ài)情故事成為國(guó)際新聞就是另一回事了。更別說(shuō)全世界人民都在關(guān)注你的新戀情進(jìn)展了。

　　And when people called or emailed, which they did every day for weeks, they always asked the same question first: are you guys still together? In fact, as I was preparing this talk, I did a quick search of my email inbox for the phrase "Are you still together?" and several messages popped up immediately. They were from students and journalists and friendly strangers like this one. I did radio interviews and they asked. I even gave a talk, and one woman shouted up to the stage, "Hey Mandy, where's your boyfriend?" And I promptly turned bright red.

　　人們每天給我打電話，發(fā)郵件，持續(xù)了好幾周，他們都會(huì)問(wèn)同樣的問(wèn)題：你們還在一起嗎?實(shí)際上，在我準(zhǔn)備這次演講時(shí)，我在收件箱里搜索句子， “你們還在一起嗎?” 蹦出來(lái)好多結(jié)果。問(wèn)的人有學(xué)生，有記者，還有善意的陌生人，就像這一位。我參加電臺(tái)訪談節(jié)目，他們也會(huì)問(wèn)我。甚至有一次我在做演講，有一位女士大叫著跑上臺(tái)， “嘿，曼迪，你的男朋友呢?” 我立刻就臉紅了。

　　I understand that this is part of the deal. If you write about your relationship in an international newspaper, you should expect people to feel comfortable asking about it. But I just wasn't prepared for the scope of the response. The 36 questions seem to have taken on a life of their own. In fact, the New York Times published a follow-up article for Valentine's Day, which featured readers' experiences of trying the study themselves, with varying degrees of success.

　　我能理解他們的反應(yīng)。既然你在一家國(guó)際性的報(bào)紙上寫(xiě)出自己的愛(ài)情故事，你就應(yīng)該預(yù)料到大家會(huì)毫無(wú)顧忌地問(wèn)這問(wèn)那。但我只是沒(méi)想到反響會(huì)如此之大。這36個(gè)問(wèn)題仿佛有了自己的生命力。實(shí)際上，《紐約時(shí)報(bào)》為情人節(jié)又發(fā)表了 一篇后續(xù)文章，講的是讀者們自己進(jìn)行實(shí)驗(yàn)的經(jīng)歷，他們的成功率各不相同。

　　So my first impulse in the face of all of this attention was to become very protective of my own relationship. I said no to every request for the two of us to do a media appearance together. I turned down TV interviews, and I said no to every request for photos of the two us. I think I was afraid that we would become inadvertent icons for the process of falling in love, a position I did not at all feel qualified for.

　　所以面對(duì)如此多的關(guān)注，我的第一反應(yīng)就是要保護(hù)我的戀愛(ài)關(guān)系。對(duì)于所有要我倆共同接受采訪的媒體，我都拒絕了。我不接受電視采訪，我拒絕提供兩人的合照。我覺(jué)得我是害怕被貼上對(duì)待愛(ài)情太過(guò)隨意的標(biāo)簽，我接受不了這種評(píng)價(jià)。

　　And I get it: people didn't just want to know if the study worked, they wanted to know if it really worked:that is, if it was capable of producing love that would last, not just a fling, but real love, sustainable love.

　　我明白：人們不光想知道這實(shí)驗(yàn)有沒(méi)有效，他們還想知道這實(shí)驗(yàn)會(huì)不會(huì)真的成功：也就是說(shuō)，刻意制造出來(lái)的愛(ài)情能否持久，不是曇花一現(xiàn)，而是能持續(xù)下去的真愛(ài)。

　　But this was a question I didn't feel capable of answering. My own relationship was only a few months old, and I felt like people were asking the wrong question in the first place. What would knowing whether or not we were still together really tell them? If the answer was no, would it make the experience of doing these 36 questions any less worthwhile? Dr. Arthur Aron first wrote about these questions in this study here in 1997, and here, the researcher's goal was not to produce romantic love. Instead, they wanted to foster interpersonal closeness among college students, by using what Aron called "sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personalistic self-disclosure." Sounds romantic, doesn't it?

　　但這個(gè)問(wèn)題我沒(méi)辦法回答。因?yàn)槲业母星橐膊砰_(kāi)始幾個(gè)月而已，而且我覺(jué)得這個(gè)問(wèn)題問(wèn)得不對(duì)。知道我倆是否在一起能起什么作用呢?如果我們分手了，是不是意味著做這36道題就沒(méi)什么意義了呢?這些問(wèn)題最初是亞瑟·阿倫博士在1997年的這項(xiàng)研究中設(shè)計(jì)出來(lái)的，當(dāng)時(shí)，研究者的目的并不是要制造愛(ài)情。而是想增進(jìn)大學(xué)生之間的人際關(guān)系，通過(guò)阿倫所謂的 “持續(xù)的、不斷深入的、雙向的、自我人格剖析”。聽(tīng)起來(lái)真是浪漫啊，不是嗎?

　　But the study did work. The participants did feel closer after doing it, and several subsequent studies have also used Aron's fast friends protocol as a way to quickly create trust and intimacy between strangers. They've used it between members of the police and members of community, and they've used it between people of opposing political ideologies. The original version of the story, the one that I tried last summer, that pairs the personal questions with four minutes of eye contact, was referenced in this article, but unfortunately it was never published.

　　但這項(xiàng)研究確實(shí)有效。參與者確實(shí)感覺(jué)比實(shí)驗(yàn)前更親密了，隨后的幾項(xiàng)研究同樣使用了阿倫的快速交友模式，以此來(lái)在陌生人之間迅速地建立信任，消除隔閡。他們將這種方法用在警察和社區(qū)成員之間，用在持不同政見(jiàn)的人群之間。這個(gè)故事的初始版本，也就是我去年夏天完成的，將私人問(wèn)題和4分鐘眼神交流 結(jié)合在一起，在這篇文章里也提到了，但不幸的是這篇文章從未被發(fā)表。

　　So a few months ago, I was giving a talk at a small liberal arts college, and a student came up to me afterwards and he said, kind of shyly, "So, I tried your study, and it didn't work." He seemed a little mystified by this. "You mean, you didn't fall in love with the person you did it with?" I asked.

　　幾個(gè)月前，我在一所小型文理學(xué)院做演講，演講結(jié)束后，一名男生過(guò)來(lái)找我，他怯生生地說(shuō)， “嗯，我試過(guò)你的方法了，但是不管用。”他看起來(lái)很迷茫的樣子。“你的意思是，你沒(méi)有愛(ài)上跟你一起做實(shí)驗(yàn)的那個(gè)人?”我問(wèn)。

　　"Well..." He paused. "I think she just wants to be friends."

　　“也許……”他停頓了一下。 “我覺(jué)得她只想與我做朋友。”

　　"But did you become better friends?" I asked. "Did you feel like you got to really know each other after doing the study?" He nodded.

　　“但你們的關(guān)系是不是比以前更好了?”我又問(wèn)。 “你有沒(méi)有覺(jué)得實(shí)驗(yàn)之后，你倆對(duì)彼此的了解都有所加深?” 他點(diǎn)了點(diǎn)頭。

　　"So, then it worked," I said.

　　“那么，這個(gè)實(shí)驗(yàn)就是管用的。”我說(shuō)

　　I don't think this is the answer he was looking for. In fact, I don't think this is the answer that any of us are looking for when it comes to love.

　　我知道這不是他想得到的答案。事實(shí)上，我認(rèn)為這不是任何人想要得到的答案，尤其是他們?cè)趯ふ覑?ài)情的時(shí)候。

　　I first came across this study when I was 29 and I was going through a really difficult breakup. I had been in the relationship since I was 20, which was basically my entire adult life, and he was my first real love,and I had no idea how or if I could make a life without him. So I turned to science.

　　我第一次完成這個(gè)實(shí)驗(yàn)的時(shí)候是29歲，當(dāng)時(shí)我正在經(jīng)歷一場(chǎng)非常痛苦的分手。這段感情是從我20歲時(shí)開(kāi)始的，幾乎貫穿了我成年后的所有歲月，他是我第一個(gè)真正愛(ài)的人，我無(wú)法想象沒(méi)有他的人生會(huì)是怎樣。于是我求助于科學(xué)。

　　I researched everything I could find about the science of romantic love, and I think I was hoping that it might somehow inoculate me from heartache. I don't know if I realized this at the time — I thought I was just doing research for this book I was writing — but it seems really obvious in retrospect. I hoped that if I armed myself with the knowledge of romantic love, I might never have to feel as terrible and lonely as I did then. And all this knowledge has been useful in some ways. I am more patient with love. I am more relaxed. I am more confident about asking for what I want.

　　我研究了所有我能找到的關(guān)于愛(ài)情的科學(xué)資料，我覺(jué)得我當(dāng)時(shí)是想以此來(lái)療傷。我不知道當(dāng)時(shí)我有沒(méi)有意識(shí)到這一點(diǎn)——我認(rèn)為自己只是在為寫(xiě)的書(shū)做研究——但事后回想，當(dāng)時(shí)確實(shí)是想借此療傷。我當(dāng)時(shí)希望用愛(ài)情的知識(shí)武裝自己，也許失戀帶來(lái)的傷害和孤獨(dú)感就不會(huì)那么強(qiáng)烈。這些知識(shí)最后都或多或少發(fā)揮了作用，我對(duì)愛(ài)情更加有耐心。我變得不那么執(zhí)著。我也更加有自信去追求自己想要的。

　　But I can also see myself more clearly, and I can see that what I want is sometimes more than can reasonably be asked for. What I want from love is a guarantee, not just that I am loved today and that I will be loved tomorrow, but that I will continue to be loved by the person I love indefinitely. Maybe it's this possibility of a guarantee that people were really asking about when they wanted to know if we were still together.

　　但同時(shí)我也能更加清晰地認(rèn)識(shí)自己，我發(fā)現(xiàn)我想要的很多，有時(shí)候甚至是一些只能意會(huì)的東西。我希望愛(ài)情是一種保障，并不僅僅是今天被愛(ài)，或者明天被愛(ài)，而是被我愛(ài)的這個(gè)人永遠(yuǎn)地愛(ài)下去。也許大家關(guān)心我倆是不是還在一起真正的原因在于大家都想看看 這種保障是否真的存在。

　　So the story that the media told about the 36 questions was that there might be a shortcut to falling in love. There might be a way to somehow mitigate some of the risk involved, and this is a very appealing story, because falling in love feels amazing, but it's also terrifying. The moment you admit to loving someone, you admit to having a lot to lose, and it's true that these questions do provide a mechanism for getting to know someone quickly, which is also a mechanism for being known, and I think this is the thing that most of us really want from love: to be known, to be seen, to be understood.

　　因此媒體對(duì)這36道題的故事感興趣的真正原因在于大家好奇：愛(ài)情是否存在捷徑。也許存在某種方法，可以降低愛(ài)情的風(fēng)險(xiǎn)，而這個(gè)實(shí)驗(yàn)本身，也非常吸引人，因?yàn)閻?ài)上某人的感覺(jué)非常奇妙，但同時(shí)也讓人感到害怕。當(dāng)你承認(rèn)愛(ài)上某人的那一刻起，也就意味著你要放棄很多東西，但這些問(wèn)題的確提供了一種快速了解一個(gè)人的途徑，同時(shí)也提供了你被人了解的途徑。

　　But I think when it comes to love, we are too willing to accept the short version of the story. The version of the story that asks, "Are you still together?" and is content with a yes or no answer.

　　我想，我們大多數(shù)人都希望從愛(ài)情中獲得以下東西：被了解，被關(guān)注，被理解。但我也認(rèn)為，當(dāng)談到愛(ài)情時(shí)，我們有時(shí)太過(guò)簡(jiǎn)單粗暴，簡(jiǎn)單到只想問(wèn)“你們是否還在一起?”，而這個(gè)問(wèn)題只用是和否就可以回答。

　　So rather than that question, I would propose we ask some more difficult questions, questions like: How do you decide who deserves your love and who does not? How do you stay in love when things get difficult, and how do you know when to just cut and run? How do you live with the doubt that inevitably creeps into every relationship, or even harder, how do you live with your partner's doubt? I don't necessarily know the answers to these questions, but I think they're an important start at having a more thoughtful conversation about what it means to love someone.

　　因此相對(duì)這個(gè)問(wèn)題，我建議大家問(wèn)一些更深的問(wèn)題，比如： 你如何確定誰(shuí)值得你愛(ài)?誰(shuí)不值得?當(dāng)遇到困難時(shí)你如何維系愛(ài)情，你如何判斷何時(shí)該分手，各走各的路?你如何處理每段感情都可能出現(xiàn)的信任問(wèn)題，甚至比這更難一點(diǎn)，你如何處理伴侶的不信任?我不一定知道這些問(wèn)題的答案，但我認(rèn)為，我們以更加成熟的方式來(lái)討論愛(ài)情會(huì)是一個(gè)不錯(cuò)的開(kāi)始。

　　So, if you want it, the short version of the story of my relationship is this: a year ago, an acquaintance and I did a study designed to create romantic love, and we fell in love, and we are still together, and I am so glad.

　　當(dāng)然，如果你們堅(jiān)持想要知道我的愛(ài)情故事縮略版，我滿(mǎn)足你們：一年前，我和一個(gè)熟人進(jìn)行了一次實(shí)驗(yàn)，看愛(ài)情能否被制造出來(lái)，結(jié)果我們相愛(ài)了，現(xiàn)在也沒(méi)有分開(kāi)，我非常開(kāi)心。

　　But falling in love is not the same thing as staying in love. Falling in love is the easy part. So at the end of my article, I wrote, "Love didn't happen to us. We're in love because we each made the choice to be."And I cringe a little when I read that now, not because it isn't true, but because at the time, I really hadn't considered everything that was contained in that choice. I didn't consider how many times we would each have to make that choice, and how many times I will continue to have to make that choice without knowing whether or not he will always choose me.

　　但墜入愛(ài)河與維持愛(ài)情是兩回事。相愛(ài)容易相守難。所以在文章結(jié)尾，我寫(xiě)到， “愛(ài)情不是從天而降的。我們相愛(ài)是因?yàn)槲覀冞x擇了相愛(ài)。” 再讀這句話時(shí)，我有點(diǎn)不好意思，不是因?yàn)檫@句話不對(duì)，而是當(dāng)時(shí)，我對(duì)選擇相愛(ài)意味著什么，并沒(méi)有考慮得那么周全。我沒(méi)有考慮，有多少次我們本應(yīng)該下定決心相愛(ài)，以及在不知道對(duì)方是否選擇我的前提下，未來(lái)我還需要下多少次決心。

　　I want it to be enough to have asked and answered 36 questions, and to have chosen to love someone so generous and kind and fun and to have broadcast that choice in the biggest newspaper in America. But what I have done instead is turn my relationshipinto the kind of myth I don't quite believe in. And what I want, what perhaps I will spend my life wanting,is for that myth to be true.

　　我希望通過(guò)36個(gè)問(wèn)題的問(wèn)和答，通過(guò)選擇一個(gè)如此慷慨、善良、風(fēng)趣的人相愛(ài)，通過(guò)將我的選擇在全美最大的報(bào)紙上曝光，已經(jīng)足夠我認(rèn)定這個(gè)選擇了。然而我所做的卻是將我的愛(ài)情變成了一個(gè)我自己都不怎么相信的神話故事。我現(xiàn)在追求的，也許我一輩子都會(huì)去追求的，就是讓這個(gè)神話成真。

　　I want the happy ending implied by the title to my article, which is, incidentally, the only part of the article that I didn't actually write.

　　我希望一個(gè)幸福的結(jié)局，就像我文章標(biāo)題所暗示的，順便說(shuō)一句，整篇文章只有那個(gè)標(biāo)題不是我寫(xiě)的。

　　But what I have instead is the chance to make the choice to love someone, and the hope that he will choose to love me back, and it is terrifying, but that's the deal with love.Thank you.

　　但是我有機(jī)會(huì)去選擇我愛(ài)的人，也希望他能愛(ài)我，這事兒挺讓人害怕的，但這就是愛(ài)情。謝謝大家。

　　《原來(lái)這才是擁有愛(ài)情的最好時(shí)間》觀后感

　　愛(ài)情是兩個(gè)人相親相愛(ài);愛(ài)情是兩個(gè)人幸福浪漫;愛(ài)情是兩個(gè)人無(wú)私專(zhuān)一;愛(ài)情是人與人之間的強(qiáng)烈的依戀、親近和向往。我們都在為愛(ài)情而改變，為愛(ài)情而奔波，為愛(ài)情而變傻。呵呵!也許都是值得的吧!但是愛(ài)情是那么盈動(dòng)人，也是那么自私，更是那么讓人不能有理智的去面對(duì)，只有認(rèn)真思考愛(ài)情才有醒悟。

　　愛(ài)情是甜蜜的嗎?不!相信也有苦的。如果愛(ài)一個(gè)人，就要包容他[她]的小脾氣;如果愛(ài)一個(gè)人，就要給對(duì)方快樂(lè)跟幸福;如果愛(ài)一個(gè)人，就要原諒對(duì)方的過(guò)去，乃至一切;如果愛(ài)一個(gè)人，就要體諒對(duì)方任性、小氣和不開(kāi)心。

　　愛(ài)是什么?誰(shuí)說(shuō)得清楚，誰(shuí)又知道?愛(ài)一個(gè)人好難，也好苦，也好無(wú)可奈何，愛(ài)是不是要牽對(duì)方的手，要依靠對(duì)方的肩膀，是不是要包容對(duì)方的一切，愛(ài)是不是要維護(hù)，愛(ài)需要理解，包容，原諒，容忍，真誠(chéng)，才可以天長(zhǎng)地久嗎?愛(ài)是很難說(shuō)清楚的，不過(guò)我們要學(xué)會(huì)珍惜，因?yàn)橛行?ài)錯(cuò)過(guò)了就不再來(lái)了，不要任性，不要猜測(cè)，因?yàn)槟銈兪窍鄲?ài)的，愛(ài)就是這樣，沒(méi)理由，緣分就這樣把你們拉在一起，有一種愛(ài)叫做有緣無(wú)分，好苦啊!愛(ài)不是玩弄，愛(ài)不是游戲，愛(ài)不是玩耍，愛(ài)是一個(gè)說(shuō)不清摸不著的，愛(ài)是我們的神，愛(ài)是我們的果實(shí)，我們都要真實(shí)的面對(duì)，珍惜眼前的一切。

　　有一種愛(ài)叫做錯(cuò)過(guò)。人海茫茫時(shí)，可能你們真的擦肩而過(guò)，也許對(duì)方就在你的身邊或者對(duì)面，但是上天不讓你們相見(jiàn)就這樣錯(cuò)過(guò)了。

　　有一種愛(ài)叫做放手。對(duì)方希望你快樂(lè)幸福的生活，沒(méi)有煩惱跟憂愁，所以就這樣善意的騙了你，讓你討厭，然后離開(kāi)。

　　有一種愛(ài)叫做緣分。天南地北的你們走在一起，然后相愛(ài)相知，在一起結(jié)合，幸福到老。不再聽(tīng)旁人的欲說(shuō)和哭泣，因?yàn)槟銈兿嘈艑?duì)方會(huì)對(duì)自己好的。

　　有一種愛(ài)叫做好苦。什么愛(ài)是苦的呢?就是單相思。不是對(duì)方拒絕了你，就討厭你，不接受你。因?yàn)檎嬲\(chéng)坦白，所以對(duì)方不想傷害你，就選擇了斷絕!

　　有一種愛(ài)叫做幸福。你們從認(rèn)識(shí)到現(xiàn)在，結(jié)婚生子，互相尊重對(duì)方，愛(ài)護(hù)對(duì)方，為對(duì)方而著想。這樣愛(ài)情真的好幸福。可是沒(méi)有幾個(gè)人嘗試過(guò)。

　　有一種愛(ài)叫做苦想。他[她]拋棄了你，不再要你。而你卻癡癡的想著對(duì)方，想知道對(duì)方過(guò)得好不好。冷嗎?餓嗎?辛苦嗎?有煩惱嗎?快樂(lè)嗎?這就是苦想的原因。

　　有人為了愛(ài)情，而改變多年的習(xí)慣;有人為了愛(ài)情而不顧家人的反對(duì)，浪跡天涯;有人為了愛(ài)情而失去了最珍貴生命;有人為了愛(ài)情而變得更理智成熟，也有人也為了愛(ài)情變得墮落。每個(gè)人都渴望愛(ài)情的滋潤(rùn)。

　　愛(ài)情就像潤(rùn)滑劑一樣，需要滋潤(rùn)保養(yǎng)。如果不是這樣的話，那么所謂的潤(rùn)滑劑作用只不過(guò)是騙騙干枯煩躁而已。

　　常常在愛(ài)情當(dāng)中受傷的人，就像一只無(wú)力的刺猬隨時(shí)用身上的刺來(lái)保護(hù)自己的身體跟不滿(mǎn)，不會(huì)輕易的去相信對(duì)方說(shuō)的話。相互之間做多的就是懷疑和不信任的去責(zé)備對(duì)方，因?yàn)閷?duì)方都害怕自己受傷!

　　你們想做贏家嗎?如果想就要好好的改變自己的不是，自己的驕傲，自己的尊嚴(yán)，自己的時(shí)間和不滿(mǎn)的情緒。因?yàn)槲覀兿脍A。

　　把愛(ài)當(dāng)成責(zé)任，當(dāng)成生命中最重要的事情。這樣你們的愛(ài)情就會(huì)有結(jié)果，有很好的果實(shí)。請(qǐng)珍惜自己的愛(ài)情，守侯自己愛(ài)的人!

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