TED英語演講:你為生命的終結做好準備了嗎
當我們想到死亡的時候總是可怕的,但是提前準備是切實的,并且可以為臨終前的安靜留下足夠的空間。在一個莊嚴并深思熟慮的演講中,Judy 分享了5個為美好的臨終生活做計劃的方法。下面是小編為大家收集關于TED英語演講:你為生命的終結做好準備了嗎,歡迎借鑒參考。
演說題目:你為生命的終結做好準備了嗎?
演說者:Judy MacDonald
What would be a good end of life?
什么是一個生活美好的結尾?
And I'm talking about the very end.
我所說的是最終的結尾
I'm talking about dying.
我所說的是死亡
We all think a lot about how to live well.
我們都在想如何更好的生活
I'd like to talk about increasing our chances of dying well.
而我想要談的是,如何更美好地告別人生
I'm not a geriatrician.
我并不是老年病學家
I design reading programs for preschoolers.
我為學前班的孩子設計閱讀課程
What I know about this topic
我對這個話題的了解
comes from a qualitative study with a sample size of two.
來源于一個定性的研究,其中有兩個案例
In the last few years, I helped two friends
在過去的幾年,我?guī)椭鷥蓚€好朋友
have the end of life they wanted.
以他們想要的方式,結束了他們的生命
Jim and Shirley Modini spent their 68 years of marriage Jim
和 Shirley Modini度過了他們68年的婚姻生活
living off the grid on their 1,700-acre ranch
生活在遠離城鎮(zhèn)的,1,700英畝的牧場里
in the mountains of Sonoma County. Sonoma
縣的山區(qū)
They kept just enough livestock to make ends meet
他們喂養(yǎng)了僅僅是能養(yǎng)活他們自己的家禽
so that the majority of their ranch would remain a refuge
所以這大部分的牧場變成了避難所
for the bears and lions and so many other things
給熊,獅子和其他的動物
that lived there.
生活在那里
This was their dream.
這正是他們的夢想
I met Jim and Shirley in their 80s.
我在兩個老人年邁八十的時候遇見他們
They were both only children who chose not to have kids.
他們只有一個子女,而他選擇不要孩子
As we became friends, I became their trustee
當我們成為朋友后,我變成了他們的托管人
and their medical advocate,
與他們的醫(yī)療顧問
but more importantly, I became
但是更重要的是
the person who managed their end-of-life experiences.
我成為了幫助他們結束生活的那個人
And we learned a few things about how to have a good end.
并且我們學到了,如何有個好的結局
In their final years, Jim and Shirley
在最后的幾年里, Jim和 Shirley
faced cancers, fractures, infections, neurological illness.
他們面對著癌癥,骨折,傳染病和神經(jīng)上上的疾病
It's true.
這是真的
At the end, our bodily functions
人到了最后,我們身體的功能
and independence are declining to zero.
和獨立性會降低到零
What we found is that, with a plan and the right people,
我們發(fā)現(xiàn),如果有正確的計劃和人
quality of life can remain high.
他們還是可以擁有高品質的生活
The beginning of the end is triggered
結束的開始是被其他所引起的
by a mortality awareness event, and during this time,
像對死亡的意識,并且在此期間
Jim and Shirley chose ACR nature preserves Jim
和 Shirley選擇了ACR自然保護區(qū)
to take their ranch over when they were gone.
在他們?nèi)ナ篮蠼邮帜翀?/p>
This gave them the peace of mind to move forward.
這給了他們一片祥和,然后繼續(xù)前行
It might be a diagnosis. It might be your intuition.
這可能是個診斷,也可能是你的直覺
But one day, you're going to say, "This thing is going to get me."
有一天,你會說,這樣的事情會打垮我
Jim and Shirley spent this time Jim
和Shirley用這些時間
letting friends know that their end was near
讓他們的朋友知道,離他們離開人世的時間不遠了
and that they were okay with that.
而他們對此沒有埋怨
Dying from cancer and dying from neurological illness
因為患癌癥與神經(jīng)疾病而死去
are different.
是不一樣的
In both cases, last days are about quiet reassurance.
兩種情況,最后的幾天都非常安詳
Jim died first. He was conscious until the very end, Jim
先離去,到最后他都非常的清醒
but on his last day he couldn't talk.
但是在他最后一天,他說不了話
Through his eyes, we knew when he needed to hear again,
通過他的眼睛,我們知道當他想聽我們說話
"It is all set, Jim. We're going to take care of Shirley
“什么都很好,Jim。我們會好好照顧 Shirley。
right here at the ranch,
就在此時,在牧場
and ACR's going to take care of your wildlife forever."
ACR會永遠幫你保護好這里的野生動植物
From this experience I'm going to share five practices.
從這個經(jīng)歷中,我想和大家分享五個方案
I've put worksheets online,
我已經(jīng)把步驟公布在了網(wǎng)上
so if you'd like, you can plan your own end.
所以如果你愿意,你可以計劃你自己結束的方式
It starts with a plan.
這個步驟以著手計劃開始
Most people say, "I'd like to die at home."
很多人會說”我愿意死在家里."
Eighty percent of Americans die in a hospital
但是百分之八十的美國人,在醫(yī)院里死去
or a nursing home.
或者是養(yǎng)老院
Saying we'd like to die at home is not a plan.
所以說想死在家里,并不是一個計劃
A lot of people say, "If I get like that, just shoot me."
很多人又會說“如果我像那樣,一槍打死我”
This is not a plan either; this is illegal.
這也不是,因為不合法。
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